How Do I Want Others to Treat Me?
The last few weeks we have been exploring the seven questions to ask yourself in order to support designing your life’s path. These are the questions you must know the answers to in order to find your passion in life. Today we will look at the next question which explores how we like to be treated. The different ways that people interact with you can be either supportive or disruptive. This also varies among individuals, and it can be seen in both children and adults. I have found that this important factor affects my levels of stress and anxiety.
Some people may enjoy being around groups of close friends in a private setting, and may have extreme discomfort and anxiety in group settings. However, others may work more effectively in crowds; and seamlessly navigate large, completely random group environments such as conferences. These are one of the first traits we look at as managers when hiring new employees; however I have known many people that do not know this aspect about themselves. They have strived to be in a situation in which people treat them differently than that which fulfills them.
Many of us know that if we gain energy from being around others we have extroverted tendencies; and if we gain energy by being alone, we may be more introverted. Extroverted people may prefer to have all of their downtime amidst large, random groups ;and may thrive on attention they receive in such environments. But many other subtleties also can be identified when we examine our interpersonal needs, and examine ourselves a bit deeper.
Here is a list of characteristic types and characteristic responses that may help give some examples of such subtleties that help you identify which kind of personality you have.
This list will not be all encompassing nor will just one of these fit any one person. In fact it would be better if you chose a few characteristics that may represent how you desire to be treated by others. Over the next week I want you to think about this aspect, and add this list to the last two which we talked about in previous weeks posts.
Next week we will explore the next question on the list of how to personalize a path that works for us.